Does one Regret Having Failed in your Relationships? Make the mandatory Variations NOW - And Succeed

Investigate has proven that when men and women are ?Men Going Their Own Way being questioned about regrets they've got, they regret not a lot on the things they HAVE completed, but on whatever they have not finished: training they haven't pursued; career-ladder they didn't comply with; personal relationships they did not regulate to build & maintain; children they failed to have and personal development they have not taken the time to develop.

Why do we regret whatever it is that we Did not accomplish?

The reason is simple: looking back, we often know that it almost unlikely to "bring back" to our lives whatever it is that we regret not obtaining accomplished.

Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse treating the terminally ill, author of the book "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying" summarizes the first five regrets which were mentioned by individuals she treated.

Let me emphasize here these five regrets and illustrate the toll they've got had on intimate associations:

1. I wish I had the courage to be true to my self, rather than doing what others have expected of me

Many are NOT true to themselves within a relationship. They are afraid of remaining criticized and judged, and most of all - be rejected and abandoned. They have got learned, at an early age, that expressing their needs and desires cost them dearly. As adults, they therefore tend to "accommodate" to their partner, out of fear that otherwise they won't meet their partner's expectations. At the end, they are unable to develop and nurture a healthy relationship of give & take, and often feel unsatisfied in whichever relationship they have got.

Becoming true to yourself means: removing your masks and behaving according to your authentic self, out of a sense of self-worth and empowerment. When you are true to yourself you can be true with your partner. You can then build an authentic, healthy and a satisfying relationship.

2. I wish I wasn't working so hard

Many devote a lot time to their work that they don't invest in the relationship. They justify it to themselves by stating that 'Time is money"; that "They must bring income home"; that they "Must take care of their career".

But at the end of the day, those who have taken their work to an extreme, focusing mainly on it and neglecting their interactions, come to regret it - regardless of whether they are now being abandoned by their partners or live together as two strangers under the same roof.

If you are sincere about your relationship it is imperative that you make the time to be there for your partner; to share time and interests together; to feel that the two of you build a life together. Talking openly with one another about how to go about maintaining a good relationship while the two of you are working (or studying) is crucial. Open communication - in which you express yourself freely - is crucial to developing and maintaining a healthy and satisfying intimacy, in which the two of you can support each other and be there for one another in spite of your busy work and/or study schedule.

3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings

Many deny and repress their feeling and emotions in order to "live in peace" with their partners. It goes without saying, that not expressing oneself is part of not remaining true to oneself. This leads them to live life in which their self-expression is limited. Not allowing themselves to express feelings and emotions often results in feeling embittered, angry, blaming their partners for "not letting me express myself".